Monday, March 27, 2006

Personal Responsibility

Over at SuburbanBliss, one of my favorite bloggers, Melissa, has been stirring the controversy pot over her last few postings.

I always hesitate to comment on such heavy subjects such as Rusty Yate’s involvement in his children’s death, as well as the issue of false advertising when it comes to marriage. Mostly because I feel like I don’t know enough about what’s going on, and I don’t want to seem like a dumbass. (I have an easy enough time doing that as it is, har har).

But I just can’t help but think about this Rusty and Andrea Yate’s scenario. (in case your memory needs a jog, she is the mother who murdered all 5 of her children in a bathtub 3 years ago).

Melissa’s point, which is valid to an extent, is that she feel’s Rusty, who just got remarried this last week, is getting off to easy for his involvement in the murders. She feels (from what I am reading, and I could be wrong) that the whole life they were living was responsible for Andrea killing the children, and Rusty should be responsible as well.

This scenario is so complex on so many points for me. I have a personal history of mental illness, while my own has never been as severe as Yate’s, I still have experience. I have family members and friends who have battled with mental illness as well.

The part that bother’s me about Yate’s story is that, she was just so willing to do whatever she was told. Whatever Rusty said, fine, whatever the crazy preacher friends said fine. Yet she flew defiantly in the face of any medical professional who tried to help her, denying to take any type of medicine for an consistent amount of time. According to one biography that I read here, the Yates’ were very much eager in having a large family, and while several sources out there chastise Rusty for not giving Andrea help, he did send her to therapy several times. I mean, how many times does a medical professional have to step in and say, “look, it would be very very bad if you choose to have more kids”, before something needs to be done. Ha, but that would be an entirely different post in itself, because God forbid, we try to tell anyone what to do when it comes to reproductive rights. Geez I have even heard that argument in this story, that Andrea didn’t have enough rights over her reproductive system. Umm excuse me? The crazy bitch was popping out kids left and right, and while Rusty was apparently and protagonist, there was nothing stopping her from getting on the pill. Anyway, I better stop now before I get on a tangent, that gets me lot’s of enemies.
I’m not saying that Andrea Yate’s wasn’t mentally ill, I mean if you can kill your own children, all fucking 5 of them, then yeah you have some issues, but the fact that people are now saying oh tsk tsk poor thing, Rusty made her crazy and if he had just been home more and done more to help her, well that’s bullshit. According to that bio, he took her several times to the doctor’s and even protested when he thought they cut her medicine too much.
This whole thing basically comes back to an issue that has been irking me for the last few weeks. Personal Responsibility. No body wants to take it, everyone is bitching about their rights being violated and I am so disgusted by it, because people take it too far.
You typed something on the internet about your job, and they found out, got pissed and asked you to take it down, no your freaking rights aren’t being violated, especially since you chose to be incredibly vulgar. Your business has a job to do when it comes to protecting it’s own right’s. You’re lucky they didn’t fire your ass.
This whole nasty, vile epidemic is what I have so lovingly dubbed “The Howard Stern” epidemic, when people push the envelope just for the sake of pushing it and then when people are starting to get violated by this and say something, everyone starts crying and threatening with lawsuits.
For example, I read an article in a supposedly neutral publication this month about keeping God and Christianity in the work place. For me, hey not a problem, because as we have discussed before, I am a Christian, yet this article still offended me on so many levels.
The guy who wrote this article was the CEO of his company, what if he had a Jewish person working for him? Would that person be fired because they weren’t Christian? I know that he was basically talking about bringing common sense practices into the workplace and like it or not, most of the guidelines in today’s society are similar to Christian and other religions beliefs, don’t kill anyone, do unto others etc, but why do you have to bring religion into it? The article then goes on to talk about how he feels persecuted in the workplace for being religious, give me a break.
So right, sorry for going on and on, perhaps I am the only one who feels this way, or maybe the pregnancy hormones have just got me all jacked up, but what do you think, dear readers, about personal responsibilities? Do you think that people do have the rights to do what they want or say what they want without suffering any consequences despite what they say and do could hurt someone physically or emotionally?


  1. You raise some seriously difficult questions. The reproductive rights one is especially tricky. It seems like such a shame that people that would make wonderful parents are physically unable to have children while other fertile couples are abusive to their children.
    As a general rule I believe that people should be allowed to do whatever they want as long as it doesn't harm or infringe on someone else's rights.

  2. Bush goes ballistic about other countries being evil and dangerous, because they have weapons of mass destruction. But, he insists on building up even a more deadly supply of nuclear arms right here in the US. What do you think? Is killing thousands of innocent civilians okay when you are doing a little government makeover?
    Our country is in debt until forever, we don't have jobs, and we live in fear. We have invaded a country and been responsible for thousands of deaths.
    The more people that the government puts in jails, the safer we are told to think we are. The real terrorists are wherever they are, but they aren't living in a country with bars on the windows. We are.